Shane和Tom在一起六年,Tom在2011年5月7日由屋顶意外坠落去世,而Shane被禁止出席Tom的葬礼,无法见他最后一面,因为他不是Tom的“家人”,他们的关系得不到法律认可,他也没有权利处理他的遗物。
《Bridegroom》这部记录片就是因为这样一个故事促成的。从Shane和Tom的成长环境开始,采访他们故乡的朋友,一直到他们相遇,共同生活,以及Tom去世后的Shane,中间穿插着shane拍摄的各种录像,他们互相发给对方的短信。
Shane担心anti-homo,在公共场合不会和Tom有亲密的动作,在桌子上敲三下tap,tap ,tap, 这是他们之间的密码,表示我爱你。他们躲在Shane家的柜子里,在Shane的父亲回来时从里面跳出来,大声喊“surprise。”
还有很多温暖动人的镜头,彼此长久的陪伴。
"You know there's a part of me that thinks maybe I should I tell someone or maybe I should show someone ,you know ,how I'm really feeling instead of telling everyone I'm ok.And I'm not ok." 看到电影的第66分钟,失去原来是这么痛苦的事。
Tom,并没有变成Shane心里的一颗刺
揪心地疼,哭湿了一包纸巾。默默祝福所有为爱生活的人,祝福Shane,祝福天堂里的Tom.
真的被里面很多话语感动了。
Every time you meet Tom, it felt like you were meeting your best friend. And it didn't matter who you were -- he always had your back.
To tell you the truth, I am tired of hearing it – so they are not Romeo and Juliet. That’s right, they are Romeo and Romeo. Get over it.
I never wanted to say I love you in front of friends or anyone. So we developed this little code – whether we are like at a dinner or party, one of us would find a way just to tap the table three times, just to say, I love you. So, that became a very special sound for both of us.
I just stood there for a while. I didn't know what to do. But the only place that I could put my hand was like on his leg. And I did, you know, one final tap, tap, tap.
以下是三年前在b站的留言。
这部纪录片也许不是《 地球公民 》那样伟大的作品,但它们的精神是相通的。
我不喜欢这个纪录片的标签(同志,同性恋)。同性恋权利跟废除奴隶制,女性权利,动物保护意识一样,本不该被标签,但我们必须给它标签,因为它尚未被接受。我梦想将来所有的爱都不再有标签,因为它们都是一样的,都是人类最基本的需求,那就是爱。
我大概是个双性恋,或者说不在乎性别,只在乎对方的品德是否高尚,如上所述,爱就是爱,根本无所谓异性恋、同性恋、双性恋。
没有哪个权利是凭空而来的
从记录片开始的时候就已经止不住泪意,Shane说话时那种风轻云淡的压抑让肺里硬生生的疼。不知道是从什么时候开始哭的,但是到最后根本已经哭到止不住。
Shane的曾祖母说,他们是罗密欧与罗密欧。So what?
纪录片里Shane和Tom的朋友们说过很多很经典的话,每一句都值得去思考。关于gay,关于爱,关于宗教,关于天堂。最感人的大概是Shane的家人,对儿子的爱,以及对爱的包容。
只是爱了而已,fuck the mad world!
对Tom的家人其实并没有什么怨念,大概这是人之常情,每一个父母都不愿意让孩子的人生蒙上这样一个所谓的“污点”。有很长一段时间,我的妈妈都在担心我会是同性恋,曾经语重心长地和我谈话,甚至拜托我姐姐从背后小心的试探我。现在想想其实一点也不怪她,那时候的我甚至剃掉了半边头发,不肯穿裙子,终日一副中性的打扮。她从心底里担心我。当然,我并不是。我想,我们不能去指责这些不能接受同性恋的爸爸妈妈们,他们的所接受的思想并不如我们这般开放。
但是我难以接受的是Tom妈妈对Shane的欺骗。她骗Shane会邀请他出席葬礼
Shane, you make me feel like the luckiest guy alive. We should think about all the things we want to do together. Like swimming in the ocean, staying home and watching movies all day when it rains, buying a house, and adopting a dog, and a kid, teaching him how to ride a bike, driving him of his first day of school. All of us sitting at the table with the dog at our feet waiting for us to drop food, going camping and lying on our backs under the stars. We are going to have an amazing life together. I pray we will always have these feelings. My heart belongs to you, Shane.
爱情,与性别无关,在于真,挚于纯。能够全情投入去爱的人找到能够全情回应与契合的灵魂,世间已属稀少,何必在乎世俗的眼光。soulmate,soul才是重点。说来奇怪,每次都是误打误撞看了同志片,每次都看的感动不已,蓝宇、植物学家的女儿...也许爱情本身加上艰难加上磨难才更显珍贵吧。
再见,我的新郎:They are Romeo and Romeo,get over it
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